It has at all times been my dream to host a kamayan meals as an grownup. Kamayan is a standard type of consuming for Filipinos at house and overseas. On this custom, family and friends collect and share a giant meal collectively, actually share meal as a result of there isn’t any separate plate. As a substitute, banana leaves are unfold to cowl the desk, the place grilled protein and produce, rice, corn, tropical fruit and salted egg salad are laid out. Better of all, we will use our naked fingers to partake within the feast (arbitrary in Tagalog means “with the hand” or “utilizing the hand”). As our our bodies grew to become extra concerned in vitamin, I felt extra current.
I lastly selected an evening to host a kamayan occasion at my home with some good pals, and because the fateful day approached, I noticed how the preparation course of was simply as widespread because the get together itself. Aldwin introduced steamed banana leaves from his yard. Carl and Tony introduced the Liberans. After placing all of the scrumptious issues collectively, we checked out our beneficiant meal, which was about not more than $50, and we savored the scrumptious second with a deep breath. As we started, I prayed to thank the Universe for the chance to protect the traditions of our ancestors with our naked fingers. Then we feasted and feasted, in each attainable sense.
Our kamayan night instantly grew to become a key reminiscence of my 12 months, and from there I puzzled how I had ever forgotten the revitalizing energy and intimacy of sharing a meal. For years, I’ve made positive to concentrate to urgent sociopolitical points associated to meals, corresponding to international threats to meals safety, consuming issues, fatphobia and physique shaming, the intersection of racism and weight-reduction plan tradition, and unethical meals manufacturing and distribution. These structural and social realities have distorted our relationship with meals and minimize us off from the therapeutic properties of meals and its sacred presence in our lives and relationships. How then will we remind ourselves of the therapeutic parts of meals, particularly in our social connections?

Even in historic instances, meals superstitions continued to exist. This ranges from throwing grains of raw rice at weddings for wealth, hanging garlic at house to keep off vampires, or aswang away, or break by way of the fence. Someway, all through historical past and cultures, folks have an intuitive sense of the ability of meals. A good friend I invited to a random night, Carl Cervantes, a professor and creator of the Filipino non secular undertaking Sikodiwa, jogged my memory of an historic Filipino perception known as: Paglilihi (understanding). It’s believed that when a pregnant girl has a particular meals craving within the first trimester, the traits of the meals she desires will have an effect on the persona of the long run little one. For instance, Tony (one other good friend at my random get together) shared that his mom wished fruit salad when she was pregnant with him. Due to this, Tony grew to become the “jack of all trades” at college, because the fruit salad contained quite a lot of elements, thus making Tony versatile with quite a lot of abilities. Though the analysis is inconclusive, this superstition reveals our ancestors’ understanding of interconnectedness. Even within the womb, we’re irreversibly related by way of meals.
At present, these non secular concepts are more likely to increase many eyebrows in disbelief. The meals business has change into so disconnected from the traditional wonders and magical practices of meals trade. That is evident within the business’s abusive work setting and its huge spectrum of inaccessibility, from lack of entry to meals to meals elitism and the customarily pretentious language and tradition of critics. Comparable tales Menu: present how the business curates a world-renowned meals expertise that’s unique to lower than 1% of the world. Meals displays who and the place we’re in our society, and maybe extra importantly, the stark divisions inside it.
When capitalism and colonization minimize us off from our connectedness, we will purpose to reconnect by returning. Within the essay Meals as Portal to Myself, Ayu Sutriasa writes persuasively concerning the need to heal the connection with meals throughout meals colonization. He then superbly recounts the pivotal section of reconnecting together with his roots by way of cooking. Ayu cooked Indonesian meals as loving, meditative acts of embodiment and remembrance, honoring her roots and the ability of the senses within the course of. He writes: “Consuming is a sensory expertise that stimulates our contact and spirit and reference to one another as a lot because it satisfies our sense of odor and style.” That is what it means to return. to uproot and re-remember after being violently dismembered by capitalism and colonialism.
Equally, mainstream narratives level to this identical invitation as an antidote to the lack of vitality in a poisonous meals business setting; again to the query of why the principle character of the chef began cooking. The story virtually at all times ends with cooking easy, child meals, as in ratatouille Ratatouillein sandwiches The bearand, spoiler alert, a cheeseburger Menu:. The medication needed to come again.

No marvel the indulgent meal I shared with Aldwin, Carl, and Tony was so therapeutic for me. Collectively, we returned to Filipino custom as we talked about spirituality and superstition, which deepened our conversations and our connections to one another and our ancestors. There was even an lively incarnation. with our fingers we took in each spicy and scrumptious style. We loved a deeper, tastier intimacy. We had been delighted and confused, laughing from our very full and delighted bellies.

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Gabes Torres
is a psychotherapist, organizer and artist. Her work focuses on anti-colonial approaches and practices in psychological well being. He additionally focuses on abolitionist organizations on a worldwide scale. Yow will discover most of his work on his official web site www.gabestorres.com and social media platforms together with Instagram. |